Friday, March 26, 2010
When hubby and I married in 2008, we both had kids from our previous marriages. We both married young the first time and while I loved my first husband I did not have the same connection with him that I have with hubby. The connection we have is something hard to describe, especially if you haven't experienced it. It is this electric type, deep emotional connection. It is not infatuation or just purely physical attraction, it is more. We are just totally in sync with each other and when our connection is there we can both feel it.
Hubby and my relationship has been an interesting ride. We were both pretty serious, pretty quick. We were exclusively dating within 2 weeks and in less than 6 weeks I knew I was in love. When we had been dating for 3 months we took a trip to Vegas together and from there on out I knew I was going to marry him. The first six months of our relationship was really something out of a storybook. We never fought, we never even bickered. We just genuinely enjoyed the time we got to spend together and longed for more.
We slowly began spending more time together with the kids and while we didn't live together, we had to deal with more day to day things such as schedules and discipline. It is probably safe to say our first fight was over a parenting issue although I don't recall the actual fight.
Fast forward to now. We live thousands of miles from our families and close friends and spend almost all our time together. Do we get along perfectly? No, of course not! Do we often get to go on dates? No, and it makes me sad. I long for that time we had at the beginning of our relationship where we could set aside the bills, and laundry, and discipline and just be us. Just enjoy each other's company outside the chaos of day to day life.
This past weekend my dad was in town from North Carolina on a last minute visit. Saturday afternoon he offered to watch the kids so we could go on a date. Needless to say, it was a welcome break. We had no set plans, no timeline, the weather was great, and we could just walk hand and hand and just be. Sometimes even our weekends away are filled with such stress, planning, and expense it is hard to enjoy them. This was different. We went to one place we had wanted to try and it was closed. So we drove to the next town over, with a cute historic district with independent restaurants and bars, and stopped at one with a patio that had been recommended. The patio was closed and we were somewhat under dressed for the dinning room but we stayed anyways and the food was delicious! We had a great time and when we got home we sat down to watch the Time Traveler's Wife, which I had been dying to see. It was such a good love story. Hubby even liked it and it again reminded me how lucky I am to have a such a great husband and partner in life.
All it took was a few hours to rekindle that spark. It is so easy to get busy and caught up in the day to day but for yourself and for the health of your marriage it is so important to take that time on a regular basis. It really reminded me that setting up weekly date nights, even if date nights at home, is an integral part of a healthy marriage and a happy life.
Sunday, March 21, 2010
Angie at Seven Clown Circus set up this bloggy book exchange and I am so glad I decided to participate.
Thanks so much to Marla at Butts and Ashes for the great books she sent me!
My package arrived all bundled up nicely and with notes on each book. What thought and time Marla put into my package.
Top left, There's a (Slight) Chance I Might Be Going To Hell by Laurie Notaro. I have never heard of Laurie Notaro but Marla says she is one of her favorite authors so I am excited to read this.
Top middle, The Most Scenic Drives In America by Readers Digest. I have already looked through this and checked out what scenic drives are in Colorado plus what scenic drives are in my area. I think we may try some in the Maryland/Virginia area this summer.
Top right, Three Cups of Tea by Greg Mortenson and David Oliver Relin. This has been on my list of books I want to read for awhile now so I am really excited I now own it.
Bottom left, Traveling Mercies by Anne Lamont. Another book and author I have never heard of but excited to check out.
Bottom middle, The Curious Incident of the Night Dog In the Night-Time by Mark Haddon. This is probably a book I would've never picked up but now that I have it I am interested to see if I like it.
Bottom right, A Long Way Gone, Memoirs of a Boy Soldier by Ishmael Beah. Another book I have been dying to read. Some people cannot handle these stories of real life suffering but for me it inspires me to do something, to be a better person, to make the changes I can.
Thanks again Marla! The book exchange was even better than I expected.
Have I mentioned how much I love blogging?
Friday, March 19, 2010
We love Nerf at our house and we love helping people so this was a great, easy thing we could do to brighten a boy with cancer's day. Even cooler is he lives in Aurora, Colorado, which is where we moved from last year. Mason literally could've been our neighbor back in Colorado.
Here are the highlights from our Epic Nerf Battle:
B really got into the Nerf laser tag.
Oh, wait! So did I! A Nerf party isn't complete if mom doesn't play too.
Here's my little pip squeak FiFi. She is good! She beat me at Nerf laser tag.
Wyn is my little strategist. She was sneaky and always found good places to hide.
Once the neighbor kids saw we were having a Nerf party they had to join in the fun with their Nerf dart guns.
The neighbor boys in action.
Monday, March 15, 2010
It's been a year and I still miss the familiar sites, familiar people, the ones I love.
It's been a year and I've experienced more new things this year than I could've imagined.
It's been a year.
I can't believe how quickly the time has passed.
On March 14, 2009, we arrived here in Maryland after hubby accepted a job across the country, in a state we had never been, where we knew no one. The 4 day trip with a moving van and 3 kids was a little bumpy but we made it. I felt like there was a reason God wanted us in Maryland. I still am not 100% sure of what that exact reason is but I can say I have grown tremendously as a person and we have grown as a family and that may be enough of a reason. Pushing yourself out of your comfort zone requires tremendous faith but can result in tremendous growth. As much as hubby wishes we were back in Colorado, I am content to be wherever life takes us as long as I have my husband and my kids by my side. Because when it comes down to it, being with the ones you love is truly what makes someplace home.
Friday, March 12, 2010
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
For those of you who don't know SITS is a group of women bloggers who support each other through comment support and recognition. I joined SITS about a year ago and I am so excited my day in the spotlight has arrived!
I'm a twenty-something mommy to two nine year olds and one seven year old, on a new adventure, now living on the east coast, thousands of miles from our family. Working as a full-time nanny to infant twins, still a full-time mommy. I'm always busy and there is always more laundry and dishes than this mommy of three can keep up with! Want to join me on the journey?
I write about being a mom, the joys, the struggles, life in general, and I try to post new, easy recipes a couple times a month. Here's a few of my favorite posts:
Bloggy Boot Camp - What I Learned.
How Close is Too Close?
If The World Was A Playground
Super Mashers With Chicken and Green Chili Hash
If you want to learn more about Me and My Crazy Family.
If you want to see a silly video of my kids Dancing With Your Doll.
Thanks again for stopping by! Have a great day!
Monday, March 8, 2010
The view from the front of the conference room
Friday, March 5, 2010
I'll try to post more later tonight.
Monday, March 1, 2010
Then a funny thing happened, I started running, starting pushing myself, and I really like it. I like how I feel while I am doing it. I like how I feel afterwards. I like meeting my goals, no matter how small they may be.
This weekend I made a big step in becoming a true runner. I bought my first pair of real running shoes. By real, I mean expensive, bought from a running store after a detailed fit and analysis of my feet, my stride, etc. And even a day later my feet are so happy. My old Nikes just weren't cutting it. Honestly, once I moved my intensity level up from walking to running they were killing my feet. This was my first hurdle to becoming a true runner.
The day before I bought my new running shoes I told hubby I was going to run a marathon. He laughed and me and said I won't do it. Now before you all think he is a big meanie, he is not, he just knows me. He knows how much I hate running and he knows how unathletic I am but I think he forget how determined I can be. He just strengthened my resolve to meet my goal.
Obviously there is no way I am going to go from hating running, to running 3/4 mile, to running a marathon overnight, but I have some intermediate goals in place. Baby steps, right?
The running store has a 5K training program that includes weekly coaching sessions culminating in running a 5K in July. Right now I can probably run about 1 1/2 miles total, with walking breaks in between. The longest I have run without walking is 3/4 mile. All this has been inside on a treadmill and I know running outside is a completely different ball game.
If this goes well, I can then train for a 10k in the fall and go from there. I am little concerned the training program might be easier than I am looking for since they said they run 1 minute, walk 1 minute. At least easy is a good way to guarantee I will complete the program and run my 5K. Plus the $125 race/training fee and scheduled training sessions will keep me on target.
I am very excited to start this chapter of my life and to really see what I can accomplish.
Michelle, the marathon runner, I really like the ring to that.